Tuesday, March 1, 2011

How to Shine Your Light When Your Day Seems Gray

"If you're in a bad situation, don't worry it'll change. If you're in a good situation, don't worry it'll change." ~John A. Simone, Sr.

Life is like a rollercoaster... up, down, sideways, upside down, and back again.  We've all heard this saying before, but during the ride of life we tend to forget about the ups when we are down.  During those low moments I remind myself how good the up is going to be compared to this Debby Downer moment.  If life were all moments of sunshine I do not think we would appreciate the sun rays lighting our world and warming our day like we do, because we know what a storm looks like... and that is exactly what each individual needs to focus on during those low moments when his or her light grows dim.  FULLY GRASP that you are a blessed person- from the comfortable house you live in, to the clothes you are rockin', to the food you are grubbin'...  YOU ARE LUCKY!!  Have an attitude of gratitude during those moments of hopelessness, because that is what makes those joyous occasions so much sweeter!! 

Here are a few more tips to turn that frown upside down on a gloomy sort of day:

1.) Sing your favorite song at the top of your lungs... even if it's off key it release stress and feels so good!
2.) Do something thoughtful for someone... get that positivity flowing and pay it forward!!
3.) Write a list of things that you appreciate right now, in the present moment. Focus on each of them & let the love inside you well up. Even when it feels like a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day, there are always things to be happy about.
4.) Write out your emotions.  If you are mad at someone get that anger out on paper, if you feel sad about a relationship write that person a letter... but please if it is angry do not send it!!  Just release that negativity and throw it away.
5.) Exercise.  Pound that anger out on the pavement with some running, or swim out the tears of sadness.  Working-out is not only good for you it FEELS good to.  Knowing that you accomplished something that is good for you sends a positive message to your brain.
6.) Do something for yourself.  Anything from eating that delicious chocolate cake you have been trying to avoid, to getting your hair done, to a little retail therapy always makes a person feel better.  Make sure not to overindulge, because then you can be left with more guilt.  Set a budget, keep to it, and enjoy the pleasure of pampering yourself for a breif moment in this hectic world.

(To Be Continued...)

Monday, February 28, 2011

A Short Story of Finding My Light

"We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light."  ~Mary Dunbar

Unique and important were not words that I would use to describe myself during my adolesences years.  Weird, akward, and worthless was more like it.  What a lot of people do not know is that I have suffered wrongs in my life as a child that have tainted my emotional script.  I do not wish to share as of now what happened to me, but I know that as bad as it was it happened for a reason.  What I am here to share is how I found my light and hopefully give tips on how you can too! But first I feel like I need to put down my story so that people can better understand me.

For so long I hid my pain and suffering from the world, because I did not want to seem weak and I did not want to admit what had been done to me, because some how that made it more real. I let the walls build up around me, never letting anyone get close to me, never trusting people, and eventually the pressure of those walls came crashing down.  I was 20 years old and the pain struck me so deep one evening that I did not want to feel anymore at all.  I injested over 500 IBProphen and waited for the pain in my soul to subside and thankfully my father came to my rescue and saved my life.  What a selfish move... but really it hurt that bad.

My glimmer of hope came to me two months later with a postive pregnancy test result.  Yes, at first I was afraid... well more like terrified.  I couldn't even take care of myself- so what the heck was God thinking in giving ME of all people a child. Now I understand that this was God's way of showing me my importance... he trusted me with another persons life so I must be worthy of something.

 Aydn was born September 12th, 2007 and suddenly the world made more sense.
 As soon as I held him in my arms I knew that what people had told me in the past and the wrongs done to me were obsolete, after all this precious and pure baby loved me -
so I couldn't be that unloveble.

Having a baby was not the answer to my happiness, but rather the first stepping stone in my life toward true contentment with who I am.  Aydn was the first person that I could truly be myself around and boy did I enjoy not having to put on the layers and build the walls up every morning.  As Aydn has grown, so has the love for myself. While I still struggle with the past on certain days I have not let it ruin my future. Instead of those ugly words determining my emotinal script I have let the joyful and beautiful words define who I am.

I could dwell on the past and live in constant wonder of what I could've done or could've been... but I am not going to let that happen.  My light is growing brighter every day and it my PRIVILEDGE to be living this day to its fullest.